SCIENCE OF LOVE

There is one lesson in Zoology, which is a bit complicated...why???? any guesses!!!!! ya its something to do abt love, crush etc. in diff. organisms.............now i am trying to discuss it and kahin na kahin u will definetely relate urself with it. It is not just imaginative or poetic thing..

LOVE:

Love is an experience, which has 3 overlapping phases or parts u can say...

LUST, ATTRACTION and the ATTACHMENT

LUST :

Lust is something which all of us used to face very often in the school or college or may be now, which we name crush. In which u suddenly feel someone very lovely...bole to pehli nazar ka asar..

In Biological terms "it is the initial passionate sexual desire that promotes mating." Since i'm talking about biology. Here is the reasoning --- "It is the increased release of chemicals such as testosterone and estrogen."

See how true this is?? These effects rarely last more than a few weeks or months. If it doesn't take any further shape, no probs. Ye nahi to koi aur sahi..koi aur nahi to koi aur sahi ....bcoz brain stops the excess release of hormones.

ATTRACTION :

Now attraction is more individualised...more romantic...u fantasize wid sombody like a beach walk or candle light with him/her....

Since this develops out of lust (hormones r working), it is more a desire for a specific candidate for mating. Its more a commitment or u can say u seem to be in another world. If you so called "fall in love".....As u move from lust to attraction ur brain keeps releasing so many different chemicals (pheromones, soretine etc. etc. etc.).

These chemicals stimulates ur brain's pleasure points/areas....Due to which some side effects start in ur body. ha ha ha...like ....

increased heart rate

loss of appetite

loss of sleep

intense feeling

too emotional and

highly excited.

See all this was BIOLOGICAL (never thot abt it rgt?) !! and attraction normally can last only for 1 to 4 yrs if it ends it dies otherwise goes to next stage...

So this explains the feeling of LAILA-MAJNU: PYAR HOTE HI NEEND UD JADI HAI, BHOOKH MAR JATI HAI, USKI EK JHALAK PAANE KO DIL BETAAB REHTA HAI etc. etc.

I guess all of you got an explanation of what lust and attraction is all abt.

We will soon talk about the last phase ....which will differenciate between a wife/hubby and a girlfrd/boyfrnd.....but if u keep linking all the three phases of love, u won't get hurt anymore, ki life me ek affair bhi nahi kiya........ha ha...

"Love may be blind, but marriage is a real eye-opener" ha ha..

The earlier phases were kinda temporary...now this 3rd stage is really needed to be a long-term...

ATTACHMENT :

Attachment is a bonding which is based on commitments like marriage and offsprings and

it lasts for may be much more than even decades. Biologically, if u r single or into attachment phase your love hormones drop back to normal level and ur body now has high concentration of some different chemicals like oxytocin and vasopressin which makes u more stable and peaceful brain. And now u r thinking about practicalities of the world more than those poetic ..jo baki dono phases mein hota hai...and ur body acts to be more controlled....Tabhi to biwi kuch dino baad utni happening nahi lagti jitni girlfrnd hua karti thi and no more u want to spend all money for just one exotic candle light dinner with her...and u say to her" yaar, bahar khane se pet bhari ho jata hai...kuch ghar pe bana do.."etc etc...

Now there's a catch ; still for some,all thru last phase the chemicals like pheromones etc(we call them love hormones) r moderately high which keeps them romantic and lively in their marriage relationships all thru..how u feel/act,ur body releases accordingly..so a suggestion,never let ur count go down and keep the spirits high and achieve the same feeling as school days with ur partner all thru........(u mite have seen/heard the XXX shops selling those so called Pheromones....he he....)

JAGO,JAGO AND JAGO AND MAKE UR LIFE MORE BEAUTIFUL AND ROMANTIC WITH UR PARTNERS ONCE AGAIN....hope it explains everything now abt GF/BF crush & married phase...